Sunday, May 25, 2008

To commit or not to commit

I came across in the newspaper a few days ago about a woman who had killed her 15 month year old kid and then herself.

I am thinking. A lot of people have suicidal thoughts at least once in their life. Some have it early while some have it when they get old, sick and helpless. So, why some people are able to shake it off while some aren't? Why some see light at the end of the tunnel while others see endless darkness?


For me, the act of committing suicide is not scary. It's what will happen to me after I die that scares me. Some Chinese believe that those who have committed suicide will go over the act again and again until the actual time as written in the "book of live and death" 生死簿" kept by the God of Hell comes. Only then, one's yang life is considered as ended and yin life started. One will then be brought to face judgement in the boot camp aka HELL. Hell does sound condemning but that is because of Christianity interpretation. For Taoism, hell is merely a place when most people go through the eternal cycle of birth, life, death and reincarnation. Not only evil people go to hell in Taoism. As for God of hell, he is merely an administrator who has the task of reforming them and not the evil Saturn.

Anyway, I have sidetracked a bit. What I wanted to say is that to me the uncertainty of life after death is more overwhelming and scary. No one can say for certain what there is installed for me. In that case, I'd rather stay put. Maybe I have not lived in "the living hell" before so I am not sure how one who does would rather end his life. I can understand those hopeless and helpless sick people but for those who did it out of losing lovers, it just mere foolishness. For those who did it because of low grades, it's mere ignorant. Life is not about fate. It is about action and taking charge.

Thursday, May 22, 2008

Monday, May 12, 2008

Prefect Parents

Being a parent nowadays is an easy task. We only make more difficult for ourselves if we decide to spend more quality time with them. If we leave our kids alone, it's actually pretty easy to bring up kids. As long as we feed them, cloth them, shelter them, provide means for them to get an education anyway but at home, we can go about doing almost all the things we wanted to do. So, nowadays, maids and tuition teachers are necessities for those who can afford them. At home, we have maids as surrogate parents while in school or after school care, we have teachers or tuition teachers as the devils with the cane. The small amount of time we have available with our kids, we take them shopping or we watch TV. You know, the things we like to do and if we like it, they will also like it. If on rare occasion, we take them for a hike or a swim, we will feel very proud of ourselves because we are such good parents.


If we spend time with our kids, words like no, cannot, don't want and all other similar negative statements are used like punctuations in our communication with our children. Why? Because they need discipline. They need to listen to we the-almighty-ones. We, the parents know better. They need to worry about the exams result. They need to know that it is their responsibilities to get good result and bad result entails punishments. They need to understand what's right and wrong. They need to know the world outside is a dangerous one and they'd better sit tight at home or else they will disappear in the sea of wolves outside.


It is our right to ask them to come for a kiss and hug when we feel like we need one. We can also shoo them away when we are not in the mood and we think that they are such pests. It doesn't matter if they are confused as to the right timing to get love and attention from us. When we say it's the time, that is the time. When we shout go to sleep, it doesn't matter how young is our kids. Sleep means sleep. They should obey even if they are under one year old.

Here I am, rumbling about how easy to be a parent. A lot of time we cannot help to be self-centred simply because we are created to only truly know our own feelings. What others feel is just a guess or conclusion derived by us based on our own or others experiences. So what I truly feel about good parenting is to know when to pick and when to let go. It's never an easy task. No "one applied to all" solution. Some parents proudly announce that they always ask their kids to clean their own mess. Some avoid the conversation. Some boasts that they never make a fuss when their kids fall down. Some just listen. Some said they never allow their kids to go out alone without them. Some said children should be given freedom to choose their friends.

So, the conclusion is when to pick and when to let go requires good judgments. How to we gain good judgments? Hell, I don't know.

Sunday, May 11, 2008

Interesting Idioms

The Straw That Broke The Camel's Back ( one last thing that finally made the you upset ... ) He came to work late every day that week. Then on Friday, he didn't show up at all. That was the straw that broke the camel's back.

Variety Is The Spice Of Life ( life is exciting when you try different types of experiences ... )

Preaching To The Choir ( trying to make believers out of people who already believe ... )

The Writing On The Wall ( the signs of a coming change ... ) Some people chose not to see it, but the writing was on the wall; the government had to change.

Two Wrongs Don't Make A Right ( it is never right to do wrong to another person ... )

The Devil Is In The Details ( the difficult part is in the many small details ... )

Flash In The Pan ( a sudden success that disappears quickly ... )

Haste Makes Waste ( when we do things too quickly we are likely to end up with poor results ... )

People Who Live In Glass Houses Should Not Throw Stones ( don't criticize other people when you yourself have faults and weaknesses ... )

Idle Hands Are The Devil's Tools ( when you have nothing to do you are more likely to get into trouble ... )

On Your Last Leg ( the end is near ... )

Come Hell Or High Water ( no matter what else happens ... )

The Pot Calling The Kettle Black ( to say something about someone else which is actually true of you yourself ... )

When Pigs Fly ( that thing will never happen ... )

Dog-Eat-Dog ( people are looking out for their own interests ... )I have been in this business for twenty years. It's dog-eat-dog. The competition is always trying to steal your customers.

Everything But Kitchen Sink ( almost everything has been included ... )Wow, your suitcase is huge. What do you have in there? Everything but the kitchen sink?

Under The Gun ( under a lot of pressure to get something done ... )

Fated

Sometimes we wonder why certain things happen.

Sometimes we don't wonder, we just get mad.

Let's say, you are rushing to work and that stupid car in front of you is so d*** slow. You start to curse and swear.

STOP! Maybe that car is godsent. He may be trying to save you from a fatal accident 100 metres away.

Let's say, suddenly an idiot drops his plant from 10th floor and misses you by an inch. You look up and start to ^&$&*$%@.

STOP! You could have been killed if not for him. If you have moved one more step, it could have been a piano on your head.

Let's say, your wife takes so long to get ready for the party and you are the guest of honour. You start to storm the living room and or blame your mother in law, father in law or ancester in law.

STOP! Your wife may be attracting more contracts for you so that after you make it big, you can dump her for another bimbo.

So, when you think nothing worst/good can happen, think twice. Every cloud has a silver lining or in some cases, GOLD lining or PLATINUM lining. Hoh...hoh...hoh.

Friday, May 9, 2008

Is your husband allowed to meet up with his ex?


This was the question that one of my lunch partners raised. 3/4 said, "Ok what?!" I said not ok. They said there can still be friendship after love. Hell! Nah! My foot! I am not giving away any itsy bitsy tinnie winnie possibility of any kind of fling happening behind my back.

"We ,man, can have sex without love but the women can only have sex if there is love." commented one of my male friends. Right on!

I am THE WIFE. This wife said, "You don't need your ex as your friend. MAKE NEW FRIENDS!"

W - Will
I - Injure
F -Friendly
E - Ex

Thursday, May 8, 2008

Pink Wee Wee

Had one of these suckers yesterday, thanks to my sister. The next trip to the loo, I found out that the water in the bowl turned pink. I was terrified of the thought that I might be dying because of blood sipping into my urine until I remembered the culprit. It's still pink just now. Hmm...

Wednesday, May 7, 2008

A Split Second Mishap

Things we sometimes do when our hands should be on the steering wheel and eyes on the road:

1) Putting on make-up

2) Scratching those hard-to-reach parts of your body

3) Looking at the sweet young thing passing by

4) Changing/Looking for your CDs/radio channel

5) Wearing/Looking for your high heels

6) Feeding the baby (bottle or breast)

7) Blasting your music away to make sure the other drivers can also enjoy the beat (pedepak, pedekpom...)

8) Gobbling down instant noodles, McD, KFC etc

9) Slowing down to see if anyone die

10) Copying down the number plate of the crashed car

11) Tailing the ambulance/police escort

12) Showing the other driver your middle finger

13) using the handset (hands-free or not)

These are only the things I think normal people will do. Of course, there are some weirdos out there who would do more heroic stunts.

Monday, May 5, 2008

Too much of one thing

How do you know you have spent too much time with your kids?

Answer : 99% of the tune that you hum throughout the day is nursery rhymes or other cartoon songs.

How do you know you have spent too much time in your office?

Answer : 99% of the time when you want to dial from home, you start with the number 9.

The 1st situation is what I am facing now and the 2nd is what had happened before.